October 5th, 2009
|02:12 pm - Good grief pt2|
Pft, ok, so here's the scoop. I'm currently living in the living of a 1 bedroom apartment with another girl in the bedroom. She's older than me (let's say around early 30's, late 20's), married, etc., etc. Before when I had roommates we always looked for places together, each retreated to our own rooms when we came home, none of us really cooked too regularly, slept at irregular hours, you know, student stuff. Now currently, there's a curtain that half separates my "room" from the dining room and kitchen, but clearly I can hear everything that goes on in there.
So, yesterday, I made that post about how my roommate likes talking on the phone/skype in the dining room when I'm in my room where I can hear every word she (and the other person if she's on skype) says, but that doesn't hinder her from bitching out her husband (who's living in the States and whom she calls every single bloody freaking day then complains he never talks to her) or complaining about friends who come to visit her whom she agrees to host.
This past weekend 2 friends of my roommate's came to visit, a husband and wife. Now, usually, with my old roommates, if we had friends over we'd have them in our room and we'd bunk with them, but given that this was a couple I guess my roommate didn't feel comfortable sleeping in the same room, so she let the couple use her room while she slept on her sofa bed in the dining room. This morning, I had an interview bright and early at 8:00am, so I wanted to get up at around 6am. Last night, due to my having had a nap earlier, I went to bed at about 3am playing around on my laptop. Apparently my roommate didn't like it so much.
I had finished my interview and was back home by about 10am, but because I was in my "room" the curtain blocked it so that when you first enter the apartment you can't see me. My roommate comes back home at around 11am and complains to her friends that "my roommate's (aka me) alarm went off at 6 and woke me up. She was up super late last night making noise (I was typing on a laptop being extra careful not to type quickly to minimize the noise), so annoying". I guess her friends who knew I was in quickly told her I was in my room and she went quiet, afterwards asking if I'd like to have lunch with them. Haha, funny.
It was also really nice the other day when she made dinner and asked me to join her. I agreed (and have since decided no more meals together because it keeps feeling like I owe her when I eat her cooking) and throughout the meal she encouraged me to eat more. Then, the next day, she was in her room on skype and I could hear her through the wall (either the walls are too thin or she talks louder than I thought) complaining to her husband that I apparently eat everything and use everything of her's.
She certainly doesn't act her age. You'd never think she was teaching classes at the university. No, I don't like to cook or clean, stop pressuring me to do it. If you want to clean the house that's your thing, it's not as if I asked you to clean up my "room" too. Clean the rest to your heart's content. I'll clean when I think the house needs cleaning, but don't shove your standards on me. Yes I pay less then you in rent, but you know living in the living room's not easy (especially with a roommate like her), and I pay enough money to deserve some peace and quiet in my room and the goddamn right to SLEEP WHENEVER I DAMN WELL PLEASE. Stop trying to be my mom or older sister or whatever, I like my junk food, yes I know it makes you grow fat but guess what, it tastes good and doesn't require cooking. Yes I like the room messy, it's called my organized chaos.
I fully agreed on everything until the cleaning part. I've had many roommates in the past who would pull passive-aggressive shit with regards to sharing cleaning. Unless you absolutely do not use any other room in the entire place but your own, shared cleaning should be essential.
Otherwise, she sounds really fake and it sucks that you have to put up with her being so immature and two-faced.
I've shared rooms for 4 years now and never has any of the common areas been dirty to the point of disgusting. She "scolded" me for a few specks of oil on the stove when I cooked one time when I first moved in, then she vacuums when there's like...nothing to vacuum. She asked me to help and I didn't even know what the hell I was vacuuming because there was nothing there. When I lived with other roommates I wasn't the most eager one to clean, but definitely not the worst in comparison to one of my utmost unclean roommates. It's like I don't even want to breathe in her other rooms because heaven forbid I leave a strand of hair somewhere.
My experience: two years in a row with international roommates who couldn't tell a sponge from a mop and apparently had no idea how to clean. More hair in drains/bathrooms than in a Japanese horror movie. I mean I could pull a FOOT of balled-up hair from the shower drain. We set up a schedule for cleanings at the beginning of the year and even had a check list. Rarely, if ever, did anyone actually do it; sometimes they'd forget about garbage day and we'd have piles of garbage sitting out for the raccoons to raid. One of them cooked nearly every meal she ever ate. This girl was the worst offender. Any spills from her cooking would be left on the floor, stove, sink, etc., to the point where my socks would stick to the kitchen tiles. Blood from raw meat bags would drip in the fridge; sometimes she'd leave them out on the countertop without a plate underneath so the blood would be on the actual countertop. The ONE time I threw my hands up and told them all to do the cleaning for the house check themselves, they failed without me.
Thus my bitterness towards roommates who don't clean. I can understand your situation since there clearly isn't a whole lot to clean, and my landlord has extremely high standards, but I've never been nearly as bad as my roommates in the past.
Oh, that worst offender sounds like my utmost unclean roommate too. She'd cook almost daily, then when she peeled veggies or had eggshells she'd leave them in the sink, and the stove was a mess from the oil and stuff she stirfried with, and the blood from raw meat in fridge she totally did that. She also tried putting raw dumplings in the freezer on a plate without so much as a plastic cover over it or anything, and notorious for leaving things in, forgetting, and letting them sit and rot for months at a time.
My current roommates will buy a shitton of bread (loafs of bread, hot dog buns, etc) and have them sit there -untouched- even and grow mold. And not just a little bit of mold... and leave stuff out and it gets moldy and let it sit there.... I just had some hamburger buns get moldy on me, but I actually throw this stuff away when it gets to that point.
Then one of them will bitch, scream, and use profanities at one of my other roommates if he failed to vacuum one day.
I just had to bitch her out on Saturday because all three roommates leave a fucking huge mess on the furniture which is all mine and my boyfriend's. >_< We barely use our furniture because of their stuff covering it.
Roommates always seem to take advantage of me not needing a lot of space. They seem to think that means they're allowed as much stuff as possible to cover every possible area mine does not.
Well, I could rant for hours, so I won't. Roommates suck.
No, I can't be surprised. I've had pretty bad roommates myself. And still do.
Room mates suck... :/ Hence why I refuse to do that to myself again.
QWO is having a get together this Friday. I'd love it if you came out. If you're a snuggle bug I promise cuddles. XD I'd invite you to my place as a break from the lunacy but LOL... I dunno how you'd feel about that.
She sounds quite superficial, urgh. Makes you think what else she says when you're not around.
I think there needs to be a compromise, but easier said then done really. Considering how she is and all, I would have thought she would be like our age or something, so hard to believe when you mentioned she was married. o.O; Odd, they aren't living together...